With every year back to school kids face different challenges. For some it’s bullies, old or new, for others it’s just fitting in in general,
Babies are born as a blank slate so it’s important to empower them right from the beginning. We as parents give them the tools they need to be confident individuals, because what we tell them they are, is what they will believe. A child who is told they are stupid, or incapable will grow up to believe that this is true. What happens in society is out of our control, and there may be instances where they are put down at school or in a playgroup. If the foundation of empowerment is there, these cases will have little impact on their self-esteem, because guess what?
Mom thinks I’m awesome, so I must be!
There are many ways to empower your children but we have cherry-picked three of the most important tools you can use in daily life to ensure that your child grows up knowing they are wonderful, they are capable, and they are worth it.
This point is crucial for empowerment. When we acknowledge even the tiniest achievement we are telling our child that their hard work has paid off. When we acknowledge them when they speak to us, we are letting them know that what they say matters, and that we respect their thoughts. Acknowledging emotions, like a moment of sadness (even if it seems silly to us), we are building the foundation for expression. At the root of most depression is bottled up emotions.
Listen intently to what they tell you, but more importantly, listen for what they aren’t telling you. It’s easy to tell you about the great day they had but sometimes, even the most empowered child will retain information they may be embarrassed about, think they should ignore, or worry it may be their fault. If they don’t like someone at school or even in the family, listen to how they feel about them, and never force interaction, even if it’s a family member. If they don’t wan to hug uncle John good-bye, suggest a high five instead or simply say, “Maybe next time”— kids have really good instincts, so trust in them.
It’s so important for a child to know they can do whatever they put their mind do. Always encourage perseverance, integrity, and resilience. Life can get tough at times, and if they grow up thinking they can crush their obstacles, they will always give any task their all. The best way to do this is to be a great role model so they mirror your approach in life. When you may be failing in something, try and push through, and let them watch you do it. Encourage kindness at all times and do this by being kind yourself. Treat others as you would like to be treated.